Why You Shouldn't Feel Guilty About Making Time For You

Do you ever feel that no matter what you do it doesn’t feel good enough? Do you find yourself constantly feeling guilty with your kids for one thing or another?

Well I am here to tell you that you are not on your own, I am a mother of two and have spent the last few weeks feeling like I am in a constant battle with my guilt.

Whether I have been feeling that I haven’t spent enough time with them, spent too much time with one and not the other, like I haven’t been there for them when they have needed me, or even for taking five minutes for myself.

We need to stop feeling guilty because first of all that does not serve us as parents, I know I know I am not one to talk as like I have said the last few weeks I have been feeling like I am not enough and need to be more for my kids.

If I have learnt anything recently is that all our children want us to do is show up and be happy. If our cup is empty how do we expect to fill theirs?

Here is a few suggestions to help:

• Create a playlist on Spotify and let your crazy out whilst you dance round the house with them or sing along in the car too.

• Sit and read a book with them

• Get them to join you in cooking dinner

• Do housework with them instead of struggling on your own

Kids love to feel involved, well mine do, for me the worst part of the day is as soon as my son gets back from school, the two year old is whinging, I'm constantly nagging him to do his chores. I feel stressed because I know I have to leave the house in a couple hours to go to work.

I constantly feel I am stretching my time, I spend all day with my daughter, then my son returns from school, cook and eat dinner, off to work, get back from work. then my partner wants to spend time with me, which is lovely but when you have stuff to do and have no time to yourself all day alll I want to do is sit and write.

Make time for you is a massive word of advice I am giving to you all, someone once said to me when you get on a plane they go through the safety procedures, they explain to you to put on your oxygen mask first in an emergency then help others, it’s the same with being a parent.

How do you expect to fill your child's cup if yours is half empty?

I want you to write down a plan for the next week, on each day write down something for you that takes 10 - 20 minutes, and try and stick to it.

Here are some ideas:

• Take a bath

• Read a book

• Meditate

• Do some Yoga or any form of exercise that you enjoy

• Call a friend

• Go for a coffee

• Go for Lunch

Make a promise to yourself to make time for you, a happier you is a happier family and a happier family is a happier you.

Let me know how you get on, I would love to hear some feedback and your stories.

Take care all and remember you are doing the best you can with what you have got.

Love to you all

The Joys Of Parenthood

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